There are entire industries devoted to helping women either achieve “it all” or “do it all”. From life coaches to planners to mommy support groups, there are millions of messages telling us that we have the ability to can/do/be all. But when you’re an author, there are a lot of things to keep up with, and as I step up my social media and content game, I, like many of you, are faced with the idea of “being it all”.
So how do you do it?
I’ve got to say, I’ve never subscribed to the concept of “it all”. Maybe it’s because I have a chronic invisible illness, so learning that I can do what I can do, and well, that’s what I can do, has been a sanity saver for me. Or maybe it’s because I’ve known of so many people who on social media looked like they had their shit together and were rocking it hard, when in reality they were miserable, depressed, and completely coming part at the seams. So I think it’s more of a matter of finding out what works for us and what we can do, rather than focusing on the elusive concept of “it all”.
I’ve also found breaking things into smaller bite sized pieces helps. When I plan social media, I post something for two days. That’s it. Then I move that to do item for two days out. Posting and scheduling my post a day (which hey, is far better than I had been doing) for only two days keeps the task far more manageable.
And I focus on what works for me. Facebook and Twitter I get. Pintrest and Instagram, not so much. My smart phone is mostly used for calls and texts, with the occasional foray into my bank’s mobile app to check account balances or to use Amazon Music. So the social media that relies a lot on a phone, I don’t do. Am I missing out? I don’t feel like I am.
I think taking things my way, working in steps that seem to be the best for me are the way to go. And when it comes to the elusive “it all”, well the best place to start is to define what that really means for us.